#NotAllMen....Yes it fucking is! | Why we need to educate more

 #NotAllMen?? Yes it Fucking is!
#EducateYourself

Every woman you know has taken a longer route.
Has doubled back on herself.
Has pretended to dawdle by a shop window.
Has held her keys in her hand.
Has made a fake phone call.
Has rounded a corner and run.
Every woman you know has walked home scared.
Every woman you know.


Guys, we need to raise the fucking bar, because this is ridiculous. How have we allowed this to happen?
Years ago I would have been a prime example of someone who didn't speak out when guys I knew were being misogynistic.
There were times even, when a friend of mine had a creepy attitude towards women and over stepped marks on night's out and not respecting their space.
I never said anything to them as I didn't feel it was my place to.....
It was my place to, it's every guys place to speak up when a friend or brother or whatever acts in a way that makes a woman feel uncomfortable.
#NotAllMen ? yes it fucking is, because not enough of us are listening and educating the ones that bring us down.

I remember back in my school days/college days and being at a party at a friends house.
I remember back to a "friend" of mine cornering a girl in a room and refusing to let her leave because he wanted to "go out" with her.
I remember sitting in the other room, seeing this happen and doing nothing.
I remember seeing the girl try and make eye contact, subtly, because she didn't feel uncomfortable, and doing nothing.
I remember feeling, like this was not ok, but again, doing nothing about it.

This is what people are saying when it comes to Educating your sons/brothers/friends. I seem to have put my ignorance at the forefront and hid behind it. Luckily the girl was not hurt, but how is that a silver lining, she was put in an uncomfortable position and surely she's experienced the same level or even worse in her adult life.
I think back and put my head in my hands with shame. I should have spoke up, took the beating from the dickhead friend if I had to, but at least I would have made it clear.
If more of us speak up, then these types lose the control, because we all know control is a major force with their thinking.
Raise the Bar. Stop being a Dick. Respect Women!

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